Is there a gap between how you'd like things to be and how they are? Most likely there is, and it hurts. It may be a small gap or a freaking enormous ravine, but that gap is, in fact, probably the primary cause of pain and unhappiness for most people. Whatever it is that is stressing you out right now or causing you pain is right there in that gap, and stopping your life from being how you would like it to be. What if you said 'F**k It' to the idea of how your life should be and found peace with your life just as it is? That's going to shake things up and take the edge off your pain and discomfort way more than any pill could. John C. Parkin, the maestro of saying 'F**k It', realized as he worked with people on his retreats that we can close that gap not by striving to be dfferent, changing the world or even learning how to peaceful - but by saying 'F**k It' and making our peace with life, just as it is. Being at peace with life doesn't necessarily mean being peaceful, and it certainly isn't being passive; it means embracing life in all its colours. This is a radical message that can create radical shifts in your perception of life, just as it is.