Emcke, a former war correspondent, turns her reporter's eye to her own experiences, exploring questions about identity, sexuality and love. Emcke draws back the veil on how we experience desire, no matter what our sexual orientation. What if, instead of discovering our sexuality only once, during puberty, we discover it again later--and then again, after that? What if our sexuality reinvents itself every time the object of our desire changes? Emcke also examines how prejudice against homosexuality has survived its decriminalization in the west.